Author: Elena Overfield
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Maybe My ‘Fatal Flaws’ Aren’t Flaws | Over-Loving, Overthinking & Feeling Everything
What if the things you’ve spent years trying to change about yourself aren’t actually flaws? I over-love, overthink, over-give, over-trust and feel absolutely everything, but I’m starting to realise that growing doesn’t have to mean becoming colder, quieter or less sensitive. Maybe our greatest strengths and our biggest vulnerabilities are often the same traits, and…
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Living in a World That Teaches Women to Be Afraid
How do you find the balance between staying safe and still believing in the goodness of people? In this personal reflection, I explore how trauma changes the way we experience the world, why uncertainty can be more frightening than certainty, and the invisible mental load so many women carry every time they leave the house.…
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The “Chill Girl” Doesn’t Exist
How many times have you swallowed your feelings because you didn’t want to seem “too much”? For years, I tried to become the “chill girl”—easy-going, low maintenance, and endlessly understanding. But I’ve realised that shrinking yourself doesn’t make you easier to love; it just makes you harder to recognise. In this post, I explore the…
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Maybe I’m Not Needy. Maybe You’re Just Comfortable Giving Me Less Than I Deserve.
Have you ever been called “too needy” for asking for what you thought was the bare minimum? I certainly have. After years of believing I needed to be quieter, easier, and less emotional to be loved, I’ve started questioning whether my needs were ever the problem at all. This post explores relationship expectations, emotional availability,…
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The “Boyfriend” Isn’t the Point
There’s nothing wrong with wanting love. Humans are wired for connection. But what happens when being chosen becomes tangled up with your sense of self-worth? In this deeply personal reflection, I explore the link between my eating disorder, anxiety, uncertainty after breakups, and why I’ve started to wonder whether I’ve never really been searching for…
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Being Mean Must Be Exhausting: The Art of Not Taking It Personally
Have you ever found yourself overthinking someone’s sudden change in behaviour towards you? Maybe they’ve become cold, distant, or outright rude, and you’re left wondering what you did wrong. In this post, we’re exploring why other people’s negativity often says more about them than it does about you, the difference between understanding someone’s pain and…
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The Fox and the Things We Never Say
The fox is one of the quietest characters in The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse, yet he may have the most to teach us. In this reflective essay, I explore how silence can be a sign of hurt, healing, resilience, and unspoken courage. Through the fox’s journey, we’re reminded that not everyone…
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The Characters We All Carry Within Us
The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse by Charlie Mackesy is far more than a beautifully illustrated book. It’s a profound exploration of friendship, self-worth, vulnerability, and what it means to be human. In this reflective review, I explore the deeper meaning behind each character and the life lessons they represent, from the…
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