Author: Elena Overfield
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Lessons I’ve Learnt This Year | Learning To Accept Good Things
The last year has been shit. If you know me, you know how true that is. But, for once, today’s post is about the flip side, and how I’ve actually experienced some truly fucking amazing things over the last twelve months, and I could not be more grateful to each and everyone of you who…
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Lessons I’ve Learnt This Year | I Don’t Need Closure to Close the Door.
I’ve always believed that moving on required answers: the explanation, the apology, the final conversation that somehow made everything make sense. This year, I’ve started learning that closure doesn’t always come from another person. Sometimes I won’t understand. Sometimes they won’t apologise. Sometimes they’ll never understand me. And sometimes closure is simply deciding that I…
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Lessons I’ve Learnt This Year | I Spent My Life Terrified People Would Leave Me, Then I Realised I Could Leave Too
I spent years terrified that people would leave me, so focused on being chosen that I rarely stopped to ask whether I was choosing them too. This year, I finally realised that not everybody deserves permanent access to me. I don’t need everyone to like me, history isn’t a contract, and walking away doesn’t always…
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Her Body, Her Choice… But At What Cost? Sydney Sweeney, SkinnyTok and Why We’ve Forgotten What Women’s Bodies Can Do
Sydney Sweeney’s controversial Novig campaign has reignited a much bigger conversation about sexualisation, SkinnyTok, body image and women in sport. If 1.3 million girls who once loved sport are dropping out during their teenage years, and more than half say they worry they don’t have the “right” body shape, we need to ask what we’re…
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Maybe My ‘Fatal Flaws’ Aren’t Flaws | Over-Loving, Overthinking & Feeling Everything
What if the things you’ve spent years trying to change about yourself aren’t actually flaws? I over-love, overthink, over-give, over-trust and feel absolutely everything, but I’m starting to realise that growing doesn’t have to mean becoming colder, quieter or less sensitive. Maybe our greatest strengths and our biggest vulnerabilities are often the same traits, and…
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Living in a World That Teaches Women to Be Afraid
How do you find the balance between staying safe and still believing in the goodness of people? In this personal reflection, I explore how trauma changes the way we experience the world, why uncertainty can be more frightening than certainty, and the invisible mental load so many women carry every time they leave the house.…
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The “Chill Girl” Doesn’t Exist
How many times have you swallowed your feelings because you didn’t want to seem “too much”? For years, I tried to become the “chill girl”—easy-going, low maintenance, and endlessly understanding. But I’ve realised that shrinking yourself doesn’t make you easier to love; it just makes you harder to recognise. In this post, I explore the…
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Maybe I’m Not Needy. Maybe You’re Just Comfortable Giving Me Less Than I Deserve.
Have you ever been called “too needy” for asking for what you thought was the bare minimum? I certainly have. After years of believing I needed to be quieter, easier, and less emotional to be loved, I’ve started questioning whether my needs were ever the problem at all. This post explores relationship expectations, emotional availability,…
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